I am not a single mom. I am blessed to have a husband that is actively involved in helping raise our twins. Unfortunately, two and a half weeks ago, he fell off a ladder at work and broke his shoulder and wrist...his right shoulder and wrist. He is not allowed to drive for now, and he is able to do little to help out. I am overwhelmed.
Single moms amaze me! Whether by choice, accident, or fate, single moms bear a heavier load than the rest of us. I can't imagine being everything to my family: breadwinner, counselor, chef, laundress, mechanic, carpenter, teacher, ....... The logistics are what's doing me in right now. I'm pretty good at getting us all up, ready, and out of the house in the morning. The daycare drop off is pretty smooth, too. My work days are 120% packed straight up until 4 pm. That's when trouble starts. I race from work to pick up the kids at daycare. We hop in the car and head home. They watch Sprout while I cook dinner, do dishes, and laundry. Then, it is bath and bedtime, theirs and mine. I'm not getting to spend the quality time I used to with them. That makes me sad. My two favorite little people are growing up so quickly, and right now, I don't get to be involved.
So, how do you do it? How do you get everything done and still fit in the books, cuddles, and activities? Any hints are welcome! Thanks!
No child ever grew up & said admiringly, Wow, my mom had the neatest house ever!
ReplyDeletePart-time was the only way I could do it the way I wanted to. So I drive a cheap car and live in a small house way out and I have more debt than I'd like. I don't have expensive clothes and haven't been on an airplane in years and my house is a mess but I have almost never missed a field trip, I am with my girls A Lot and I feel balanced. I love my job and my time with my kids.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, my best tip is once a nonth cooking. Once they are older and all you do is rush out to activities, it is the best thing to not have to deal with dinner every night! It has been a lifesaver!